Dear Future Husband
Dear Future Husband: New Address

My darling, Ive changed our postal address.

we are now at : http://dearfuturehusbandletters.blogspot.com/

I have moved all your letters so don’t worry they’re all there for you to refresh your memory with.

Much love,

Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

I was reading a book about Harry and Bess Truman(if you don’t know who they are I suggest you LOOK IT UP)

Anyway the book spoke of their courtship and letter writing. Bess lived in Town and Harry on a farm so most of their courtship happened through letters and even when they were married and living together HARRY STILL WROTE BESS LETTERS!

Now obviously I love writing letters(Hello this is the 35th one I’ve written to you!) but I also LOVE getting letters! there is no greater feeling than opening the post box and seeing a hand written letter waiting to be opened.

I have friends who live in different countries and we chose to write letters rather than send emails, so i’m an old hand at writing and posting letters, I hope that you my darling will be the same.

If not, I would encourage you to start writing letters, so that by the time you start sending me letters you’ll be a pro.

If like me you are a fan of letter writing, I hope that most of our correspondence will be via post, even when we are married and living together.

There is nothing I love more than words written down in letter form and you know how I feel about words(See previous post) also remember “Happy Wife, happy life” ;-)

Sincerely

Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

I grew up watching stuff like “The Nanny” and “The West Wing” and “Jerry Maguire”  where I met and fell in love with A+ couples like Nanny Fine and Mistah Sheffield or Jed and Abbey Bartlet…do you see where i’m going with this?

Despite my “devil may care” attitude towards love, I am in fact at my very core a romantic at heart!

of course like all woman I love to be wined and dined but what I REALLY want is someone to have a conversation with.

I dont want diamonds and champagne-though they would be nice- I want WORDS!!!

I want someone who wants to talk about history or politics or the bloody neighbours cat, not someone who comes home and turns on the television. I want to discuss books and poetry with you,i want to have intelligent arguments, not just an argument where we see who can say “Fuck” the most.

In short I want someone with whom I can share a sort of Sorkinequse repartee.

I see many people rolling their eyes thinking “this woman is crazy, that kind of relationship doesn’t exist” but you see they’re wrong because it does exist, do you think people write this kind of stuff for TV by themselves?NO! they’ve all experienced it which is why they write about it and why we have such rich romantic characters like the Sheffields and the Bartlets!

so my darling future husband,I would encourage you to read all you can and to take an interest in the world around you so that you are fully prepared for the intelligent, witty,adoring and loving adventure that will be our marriage!

Sincerely

Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

I recently watched a TV show where this couple argued over who slept on what side of the bed and it occured to me that in order to avoid an argument, we should just sort the sleeping arrangments out once and for all.

I sleep on the left hand side of the bed and well…thats that!

I wish there was some special reason why I need to sleep on the left but there isn’t, I have always slept on the left, its just the way its been for the last 24 years.

Now of course if you are a left side sleeper than I am willing to compromise, so everytime we go away or sleep in a bed thats not ours, you are more than welcome to sleep on the left-see what I did there? I just ensured more holidays for us-I think that is a fair compromise.

If you are a right side sleeper, then well we’ll have no problem then will we?, though of course a holiday here and there to shake sleeping arrangments up a bit wouldn’t go unappreciated.

Sincrerely

Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

I feel the need to warn you that the neighbours will be talking about us….no, not because of THAT ;-)

As you know I’m an actor, so obviously my job requires me to leave home in the late afternoon and then return late at night or if I’m going to a casting really early in the morning.

It has been my experience that I leave home in a casual outfit with no make-up and flat shoes, but I somehow always return in a different outfit, wearing make-up and Heels………and yes the neighbours do talk!

I live in the suburbs and whenever I leave I can always see “Mrs Smith” peering out of her window, just longing to know what I’m getting up too.

But rest assured my darling, the men on the street will love you and the woman will worry about you so they’ll fuss over you, so basically it’s a win-win for you.

Don’t worry about me,  I’m used to it I can deal with it, I just didn’t want you to be alarmed when we’re suddenly the talk of the street….However since I’m not really a “Suburbs” kinda gal, maybe we should just live in the city where the doorman will be the only yenta around?…….

Sincerely

Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

I think it’s very important for you to know that I really hope you are NOT an actor-unless of course you’re Clooney, well then you could own Hollywood for all I care-but in the event that you are NOT Clooney, I really hope that you are not an actor, in fact I’d really like it if you weren’t in the entertainment industry at all. But before you and others raise protest let me explain: I am friends with many “acting “couples, so I’ve got a front row seat to these relationships and let me tell you it’s not pretty, two very passionate and overly dramatic people trying to navigate the choppy waters of a relationships makes for lots of arguments, now granted the make-up sex I’m told is brilliant, but seriously do we have to endure a world war to have great sex? I don’t think so. So these couples fight and make up and fight and make up and just writing about it is exhausting me. Of course there is the odd 1% who manage to make it work, but I’ve never been in the favourable 1% and I don’t feel like taking a risk. No, I would much prefer it if you were in a business trade, I’m not saying you’ve got to be a wall street exec-though of course that wouldn’t hurt- but I do think it’s best for our sanity if you were in another trade. Of course, since I am an actor, it’s important that you have some appreciation for my craft in the same way that I appreciate yours, it’s also important that you understand my schedule is not a 9-5(see a previous post for reference) but that you accept it, as I will no doubt accept your frequent business trips. Now of course there will be a group who will be up in arms about my thinking, but Darling, you’ve got to trust me on this. Sincerely Tarryn P.S You better not be a sportsman again I refer to a previous post for reference.

Dear Future Husband

I hope that you are capable of making a wonderful breakfast of eggs, bacon and toast, because I assure you I will want, no not want I will NEED it some mornings when like a friend has said “breakfast is indeed the answer”. Please note that I take tea-no milk two sugars- with my breakfast and not the standard coffee, I also like my toast to be golden , I would like to see that its bread and not a burnt piece of parchment. I also will only eat back bacon, please DO NOT give me streaky bacon! Also the eggs should be flipped over. I promise you, you will be greatly rewarded if this is how you wake me up ;-) If you do not know how to cook, well I suggest you quickly find out….. Sincerely Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

I’m not a pet person, I never had pets growing up (The one dog I did have, nearly killed me-okay not really but I did get a fright-).

BUT: I am happy to compromise and get a dog with you,because I’ve started to become, dare I say it….a dog lover……..

I am happy to get a dog on the following conditions:

1: We MUST adopt the dog from a dog shelter(see www.broadwaybarks.com for the reasoning behind this )

2: I get to choose the name (you’re already letting me name our children, so why not the dog too)

I am not fussy about the breed (but might I suggest a small dog to begin with…?) can I also suggest that maybe we dont get a puppy, I think an older smaller dog will do just fine.

See there we have it, the first compromise of our marriage and it went off without a hitch! I can see we’ll be happy for a long time…..

Sincerely

Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

I love watching television as much as the next person, I find it a great source of entertainment, HOWEVER I feel obliged to inform you that I will under no circumstances allow you to put a Television set in our bedroom.

The Bedroom is supposed to be a calming place, a place where you can truely just relax and unwind, its a place where we can sit and talk or read books or….well you know….

The bedroom is NOT the place for you to watch sport nor is it the place for me watch old musicals on TCM, if you are someone who cannot fall asleep without a TV I suggest you fix that problem and quickly!

The same rule applies to laptops and series, while its fine and fun in our singlehood, I assure you it will not be in our marriage.

Of course if you’re home alone or sick in bed entertain yourself by watching series, but not when we’re together, we should be engrossed in each others lives not the lives of ficitional characters.

Sincerely

Tarryn

Dear Future Husband

Dear Future Husband,

The Festive season is upon us andI just wanted to let you know a little somthing…

Every year without fail I buy myself an advent calendar, its just something I do, I cannot explain it. I have had advent calendars since I was a child, its tradition and thats that!

However, since I’m now older and wiser I realise that eating chocolates everyday, no matter how small they are might not be the best idea…..however if you were to create an advent calendar for me where instead of chocolates, I found..oh I dont know..Carats, nice shint carats behind each window, I assure you I will be the happiest woman alive.

If you dont want to give me Carats-which by the way are healthy for you!-Feel free to get creative with my advent calendar ;-)

Yours Sincerely

Tarryn